Questions 36 to 40 are based on the following passage.
If you want to teach your children how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky. If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can render the apology ineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has been injured feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset” ; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done. Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specific improvement. These pseudo-apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness, Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to these pseudo-apologies. But even when presented with examples of genuine contrition, children still need help to become a ware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that raiding the biscuit tin without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not. 【題組】49.The bank refused to ______him any money, so he had to postpone buying a house.
45.Below are some classified ads from an English newspaper.
FOR DIRECT CLASSIFIED SERVICE CALL 800—0557 10 (A)M.-4P.M. MONDAY-FRIDAY
COME to moving sale----Plants, pottery, books, clothes, etc, Sat, Dec. 14#----9a.m.-5p.m.1612 Ferndale, Apt. I.800-4696.
USED FUT COATS and JACKETS. GOOD condition. $30-$50. Call 800-0436 after 12 noon.
MOVING: Must sell. TV21”, $50; AM/FM radio A/C or battery, $15; cassette tape recorder, $10. Call Jon or Pat, 800-0739 after 5 p.m. or weekends.
SHEEPSKIN COAT: man’s, size 42, I year old. $85. After 6 p.m.,. 800-5224.
LOST AND FOUND
FOUND: Cat, 6 months old, black and white markings. Found near Linden and South U. Steve. 800-4661.
LOST: Gold wire rim glasses in brown case. Campus area. Reward, Call Gregg 800-2896.
FOUND: Set of keys on
Tappan near Hill intersection. Identify key chain. Call 800-9662.
FOUND: Nov.8¬th----A black and white puppy in Packard-Jewett area. 800-5770. PERSONAL
OVERSEAS JOBS---Australia, Europe, S. America, Africa. Students all professions and occupations, $700 to $3000 monthly. Expenses paid, overtime. Sightseeing, Free information at STUDENTS’UNION.
CEMTER plans to publish a booklet of student travel adventures. If you like to write about your foreign experiences, unusual or just plain interesting. Call us (800-9310) and ask for Mike or Janet.
UNSURE WHAT TO DO?
Life-Planning Workshop, Dec. 13th -15th, Bob and Margaret Atwood, 800-0046.
WAMTED: Own room near campus. Available December 1st. Rent $300 per month until March 1st. $450 thereafter. Call Jill for details, 800-7839.
MEED PERSON to assume lease for own bedroom in apt. near campus, ＄’380/mo. starting Jan. 1st. Call 800-6157 after 5p.m.. DOMESTIC SERVICE
EARLY HOUR WAKE-UP SERVICE: For prompt, courteous wake-up service, call 800-0760.
BABYSLTTER—MY HOME If you are available a few hours during the day, and some evenings to care for 2 school-age children, please call Gayle Moore, days 800-1111, evenings and weekends 800-4964.
PERSONS WANTED for delivery work, Own transportation. Good pay. Apply 2311 E Stadium. Office 101, after 9 a.m.
TELEPHONE RECEPTIONIST WAMTE (D) NO experience necessary. Good pay. Apply 2311 E Stadium. Office 101, after 9 a.m.
WAITRESS WANTED: 10 a.m.-2 p.m. or 10:30 a.m.-5 p.m. Apply in person. 207 S. Main, Curtis Restaurant.
HELP WANTED for house cleaning 1／2 day on weekends. When----to be discussed for mutual convenience. Good wages. Sylvan Street. Call 800-2817.
Where will you post a notice if you need someone to look after your children?
A PeRSONAL (B)HeLP WANTED (C)DO MeSTIC SERVICE D ROOMMATeS