PassageFourQuestions 36 to 40 are based on the followingpassage.
If you want to teachyourchildren how to say sorry, you must be good at saying it yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quitetricky. If you say to yourchildren “I’m sorry I got angrywith you, but …” whatfollowsthat “but” can render the apologyineffective: ” I had a bad day” or “yournoise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person who has beeninjuredfeelingthat he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.
Anothermethod by whichpeopleappear to apologizewithoutactuallydoing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset” ; thissuggeststhat you are somehow at fault for allowingyourself to get upset by what the otherperson has done. Thenthere is the general, all coveringapology, whichavoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularlyhurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizingshouldpromisenever to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not commit a person to any specificimprovement. Thesepseudo-apologies are used by people who believesayingsorryshowsweakness, Parents who wish to teachtheirchildren to apologizeshould see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not resort to thesepseudo-apologies. But evenwhenpresentedwithexamples of genuinecontrition, childrenstillneedhelp to become a ware of the complexities of sayingsorry. A three-year-old mightneedhelp in understandingthatotherchildrenfeelpainjust as he does, and thathitting a playmateover the headwith a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old mightneedremindingthatspoilingotherchildren’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old mightneed to be shownthatraiding the biscuit tin withoutaskingpermission is acceptable, but thatborrowing a parent’s clotheswithoutpermission is not. 【題組】49.The bankrefused to ______him any money, so he had to postponebuying a house.
(A)credit (B)borrow (C)loan (D)lease
45.Below are someclassified ads from an Englishnewspaper.
FOR DIRECTCLASSIFIEDSERVICECALL 800—0557 10 (A)M.-4P.M. MONDAY-FRIDAY
FOR SALECOME to movingsale----Plants, pottery, books, clothes, etc, Sat, Dec. 14#----9a.m.-5p.m.1612 Ferndale, Apt. I.800-4696.
USED FUT COATS and JACKETS. GOODcondition. $30-$50. Call 800-0436 after 12 noon.
MOVING: Mustsell. TV21”, $50; AM/FM radio A/C or battery, $15; cassettetaperecorder, $10. Call Jon or Pat, 800-0739 after 5 p.m. or weekends.
SHEEPSKINCOAT: man’s, size 42, I year old. $85. After 6 p.m.,. 800-5224.
LOST AND FOUNDFOUND: Cat, 6 months old, black and whitemarkings. FoundnearLinden and South U. Steve. 800-4661.
LOST: Goldwire rim glasses in browncase. Campusarea. Reward, CallGregg 800-2896.
FOUND: Set of keys on
TappannearHillintersection. Identify key chain. Call 800-9662.
FOUND: Nov.8¬th----A black and whitepuppy in Packard-Jewettarea. 800-5770. PERSONALOVERSEASJOBS---Australia, Europe, S. America, Africa. Students all professions and occupations, $700 to $3000 monthly. Expensespaid, overtime. Sightseeing, Freeinformation at STUDENTS’UNION.
THE INTERNATIONALCEMTERplans to publish a booklet of studenttraveladventures. If you like to writeaboutyourforeignexperiences, unusual or justplaininteresting. Call us (800-9310) and ask for Mike or Janet.
UNSUREWHAT TO DO?
Life-PlanningWorkshop, Dec. 13th -15th, Bob and MargaretAtwood, 800-0046.
ROOMMATESFEMALEROOMMATEWAMTED: Own roomnearcampus. AvailableDecember 1st. Rent $300 per monthuntilMarch 1st. $450 thereafter. CallJill for details, 800-7839.
MEEDPERSON to assumelease for own bedroom in apt. nearcampus, ＄’380/mo. starting Jan. 1st. Call 800-6157 after 5p.m.. DOMESTICSERVICEEARLYHOURWAKE-UP SERVICE: For prompt, courteouswake-up service, call 800-0760.
HELPWANTEDBABYSLTTER—MY HOME If you are available a few hoursduring the day, and someevenings to care for 2 school-age children, pleasecallGayleMoore, days 800-1111, evenings and weekends 800-4964.
PERSONSWANTED for deliverywork, Own transportation. Good pay. Apply 2311 E Stadium. Office 101, after 9 a.m.
TELEPHONERECEPTIONISTWAMTE (D) NO experiencenecessary. Good pay. Apply 2311 E Stadium. Office 101, after 9 a.m.
WAITRESSWANTED: 10 a.m.-2 p.m. or 10:30 a.m.-5 p.m. Apply in person. 207 S. Main, CurtisRestaurant.
HELPWANTED for housecleaning 1／2 day on weekends. When----to be discussed for mutualconvenience. Goodwages. SylvanStreet. Call 800-2817.
Wherewill you post a notice if you needsomeone to lookafteryourchildren?
A PeRSONAL (B)HeLPWANTED (C)DO MeSTICSERVICE D ROOMMATeS